2. Using takeaways and open loops
Takeaways involve getting her really into something you're saying or
doing, and then literally taking it away. Say she's laughing and
enjoying herself with you and you unexpectedly say "I have to go see my
friends, I'll be back in a few minutes". That's a takeaway. You show
open and receptive body language to her while you talk, then lean back
and cross your arms unexpectedly, or turn your back on her to focus on a
distraction. That's a takeaway. This is the idea behind ending
interactions first, and on a positive note. As the saying goes, ALWAYS
LEAVE THEM WANTING MORE.
Takeaways can be used as a system of reward and punishment as well.
Reward positive behavior by giving her value and attention, punish
negative behavior by taking it away.
Open loops are similar to takeaways, but involve leaving something
unresolved. An example of an open loop would be telling a woman, "I've
been meaning to tell you something all night. I think you're…Hold on, I
think I just saw someone I know, I'll be right back." OR as she's
talking just interrupt with "You know, I just realized something about
you." When she says "What?" say "….I'll tell you later." And just smile.
Resist her attempts to pry it out of you and change the subject. Another
example of an open loop would be calling a woman's answering machine and
leaving the following partial message: "Hi HB, I have the funniest story
to tell you about last night! It all started when this bum came up to me
on the street. And then he held up this cat that only had 3 legs…Anyway,
call me". Another open loop example: When you see she's getting involved
and really interested in some idea or story you're telling, change the
subject with no warning.
The whole purpose behind an open loop is to get the HB interested in the
outcome, then avoid disclosing it. Just like you stay and watch a shitty
show just to see how it ends, people will listen to your shitty story
just to see how it ends. If the conclusion is withheld they'll feel a
bit cheated, and may want to hear it to the point of a minor obsession.
This is why soap operas have hooked women for decades; the shows never
truly conclude, and always end with open loops. Open loops cause
frustration, and the person will then crave emotional relief. By
withholding that relief you build up tension.
Here are some more examples of open loops:
"SOMETHING ABOUT YOU" OPEN LOOPS While telling a woman a story, say
something like: "I bet you like attention", or "I bet you were a daddy's
girl" Then resume your story. Now if you've peaked her interest, she'll
interrupt you. If you haven't, just keep making comments like this until
she takes the bait. When she takes the bait, she'll be thinking to
herself, "What does he mean by that?" (This is great because it gets
them interested on an EMOTIONAL level). She'll interrupt you with, "What
do you mean by that?"
Retort with something like "Didn't your mom teach you any manners? It's
rude to interrupt someone while they're talking. But I know this because
you remind me of my...well I will tell you later" and then resume
telling the rest of your story.
"SHE WANTS TO TELL YOU SOMETHING INTERESTING" OPEN LOOPS When she tells
you she has something interesting/exciting/etc to tell you, say "I'm
busy right now but that sounds interesting, why don't you tell me when
we get together?"
NUMERICAL OPEN LOOPS "There are 3 things I look for in a woman". Then
only tell her two!
SILENCE OPEN LOOPS When she's trying to explain or justify something, be
silent and unexpressive. She'll wonder if you agree with her or not and
try harder to explain herself.
GETTING HER TO SAY "WHAT" OPEN LOOPS Say "you're such a girl" and when
she says "What? What is it?" just smile and change the subject or look
away.
