The Attract phase is the MEAT of your interaction. It's fine to open a
woman, it's fine to qualify her, it's find to develop rapport, but if
you don't stir that emotion of ATTRACTION in her, all you're doing is
making a new friend.
Note that this section is a "how-to" guide for attraction. It tells you
what to SAY and DO to demonstrate that you have attractive qualities.
What's most important though is not what you say or do, but your
ATTITUDE and the way you come across as you say or do it. Get your
attitude/inner game spot-on, and it won't matter much WHAT you say or
1. Being mysterious
Being mysterious doesn't mean faking that you work for the CIA and keep
everything a secret. It simply means not being an open book. If you knew
ahead of time how a movie ended, you probably wouldn't be as interested
in it. It's the same thing with mystery; by maintaining an air of
mystery about something, whether it be about yourself, an event, or your
past, you invoke a woman's curiosity and keep her interested.
Too much disclosure by YOU too early kills (MURDERS!) your chances for
sleeping with a woman. Too much disclosure means you lack SELF-CONTROL,
and that's one of the critical components of your self-confidence. It's
better to err to the side of giving her too little information. It
creates more mystery, which works in your favor (as long as you work to
increase her attraction along with it). Telling her something negative
about you can NEVER increase the positive feelings she has for you. It
doesn't work like that. Don't be a disclosure machine! Leave some
questions unanswered. You can actually use bits of disclosure as a
reward method when she does something you approve of.
She asks you what you did last Saturday: "That's classified".
She asks you something about your past: "I'll tell you when I know you
better" (a challenge for her, because it gives her something to strive
for—earn your trust/get the details)
She asks how many women you've slept with: "Wouldn't YOU like to know
She asks what you two are doing Friday night: "It's a surprise".
Tell her "I have something for you". When she asks, don't tell her no
matter how hard she pushes. It can be something as simple as a kiss, but
she won't know that until you see her..