Below is a list of pickup terms and acronyms used or referred to in this
website. Some are words coined by the community; others come from hypnosis and
marketing jargon; and others are common words that have been appropriated by
pickup artists. The definitions below pertain solely to each word's use in the
context of seduction. Wherever possible, the person credited with coining the
term has been cited.
AFC—noun [average frustrated chump]: a stereotypical
nice guy who has no pickup skills or understanding of what attracts women; a man
who tends to engage in supplicative and wimpy patterns of behavior around women
he has not yet slept with. Origin: Ross Jeffries.
1. noun [alpha male of the group or alpha male other guy]: a
socially comfortable male who competes with a pickup artist for a woman or
interferes with a pickup artist's game. Origin: 01d_Dog.
2. verb: to remove a potential male competitor—through physical,
verbal, or psychological tactics—from a group of women. Also: outalpha.
Origin: Tyler Durden.
1. noun: an external stimulus (a sight, sound, or touch) that
triggers a specific emotional or behavioral response, such as a song that
makes one happy because it's reminiscent of a positive life event. Anchors
are used by pickup artists to associate themselves with a woman's feelings
2. verb: the act of creating an association between an external
stimulus and an emotional or behavioral response. Origin: Richard Bandler
and John Grinder.
ASD—noun [anti-slut defense]: the maneuvers some
women make to avoid taking responsibility for initiating or agreeing to sex; or
in order to avoid appearing slutty to the man she is with, to her friends, to
society, or to herself. This can occur before or after sex, or it can prevent
sex from occurring. Origin: Yaritai.
BF DESTROYER—noun [boyfriend destroyer]: a pattern,
routine, or line a pickup artist uses with the intention of seducing a woman who
has a boyfriend.
BITCH SHIELD— noun: a woman's defensive response to
deter unknown men who approach her. Though her reaction to an opening line may
be rude, this does not necessarily mean the woman herself is rude, or even
impossible to engage in a conversation.
BLUR—verb or adjective: an occurrence in which a woman
stops returning calls, although she was initially interested in the man phoning.
BUYING TEMPERATURE—noun: the degree to which a woman
is ready to make intimate physical contact with a man. Unlike attraction, a high
buying temperature generally appears and fades quickly. To maintain a woman's
level of physical interest over a longer period of time, a pickup artist
attempts to pump her buying temperature with fast-paced routines. Origin: Tyler
CALIBRATE—verb: to read the verbal and nonverbal
responses of a person or group and accurately deduce what they are thinking or
feeling at that moment. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
CAVEMAN—verb: to directly and aggressively escalate
physical contact, and progress toward sex, with a consenting woman; predicated
on the idea that early human beings did not use intelligence and words but
instinct and strength to mate. Also: to go caveman.
CHICK CRACK—noun: any spiritual or psychological
subject that appeals to most women but does not interest most men, such as
astrology, tarot cards, and personality tests. Origin: Tyler Durden.
COCKBLOCK—noun and verb: a person who interferes with
or hinders a pickup artist's game, whether accidentally or on purpose. A
cockblock can be a friend of the woman, a friend of the pickup artist, or a
CRASH AND BURN—verb: to be directly, and often rudely,
rejected or turned away by a woman or group one has just approached.
DAY TWO—noun: a first date. Also: second meeting.
DHV—noun or verb [demonstration of higher value]: a
routine in which the pickup artist displays a skill or attribute that raises his
worth or appeal in the estimation of a woman or group; it is intended to make
him stand out from the other, less interesting men in the club. Antonym: DLV
[demonstration of lower value].
DOGGY DINNER BOWL LOOK—noun: the entranced expression
a woman gets in her eyes when she is attracted to a man who is talking to her.
Also: DDB. Origin: Ross Jeffries.
ELICIT VALUES—verb phrase: to draw out, through
conversation, what is important to a person, usually with the intention of
reaching a deep inner desire that motivates them. In terms of seduction,
eliciting values may help a man determine that a woman who says she is looking
for a rich husband is actually just looking for a feeling of safety and
security. Also: EV. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
FALSE TAKEAWAY—see takeaway.
FALSE TIME CONSTRAINT—see time constraint.
FB—noun [fuck buddy]: a woman with whom a man engages
in casual, consensual sex without an emotional attachment or relationship
FIELD—noun: any public place where a pickup artist can
FIELD REPORT—noun: a written account of a pickup or a
night out picking up women, usually posted online. Also: FR. Other
types of reports include an OR (outing report), LR (lay report), FU (fuckup
report), and TR (threesome report).
FIELD TEST—verb: to experiment with and perfect a
pickup tactic or routine on a number of women in different social situations
before sharing it with other pickup artists.
FLAKE—verb: an occurrence in which a woman cancels or
does not show up to a planned meeting.
FLUFF—verb: to make mundane small talk, typically
between two people who have just met; common subjects include where one lives,
what one does for work, and general interests and hobbies.
FMAC—noun [find, meet, attract, close]: a rudimentary,
sequential model of pickup. Origin: Mystery.
FRAME—noun: the context within which a person, thing,
event, or environment is perceived. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
FREEZE OUT—verb or noun: to ignore a woman to make her
seek validation; usually used as a technique to counter last-minute resistance.
1. verb: to have sexual intercourse.
2. noun: sexual intercourse. Also: fuck closed-close, or
!close. Origin: Mystery.
GROUP THEORY—noun: the idea that women are usually
accompanied by friends, and to meet her a man must simultaneously win the
approval of her friends while actively demonstrating a lack of interest in her.
HB—noun [hot babe]: a term used by members of the
seduction community to refer to attractive women. When discussing a specific
woman, it is often followed by either a numerical ranking of her beauty—such as
HB10—or by a nickname, such as HBRedhead. Origin: Aardvark.
HIRED GUNS—noun: female employees in the service
industry who are generally recruited for their attractiveness, such as
bartenders, waitresses, shot girls, and strippers. Origin: Mystery.
HOOK POINT—noun: the moment in a pickup when a woman
(or a group) decides that she enjoys the company of a man who has recently
approached her and doesn't want him to leave. Origin: Style.
INSTANT DATE—noun: the act of taking a woman one has
just met from one venue to another in the same day, typically from a bustling
environment to one more conducive to getting to know each other, such as from a
bar to a diner or from the street to a cafe. Origin: Mystery.
IOI—noun [indicator of interest]: a sign a woman gives
a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to or interested in him. These
clues, generally unintentional and subtle, include leaning toward a man when he
speaks, asking mundane questions to keep a conversation going, or squeezing his
hand when he takes her hand in his. Antonym: IOD [Indicator of Disinterest].
IVD—noun [interactive value demonstration]: a short
routine intended to hook the attention and interest of a woman one has just met
by teaching her something about herself. Origin: Style.
KINO—verb [from kinesthesia, noun]: to touch or be
touched, generally with suggestive intent or the purpose of arousal, such as
hair-stroking, handholding, or hip-grabbing; precedes actual sexual contact.
Origin: Ross Jeffries.
1. verb: to kiss or make out, with passion.
2. noun: a passionate kiss or makeout. Also: k-close or
*close. Origin: Mystery.
LJBF—verb or adjective [let's just be
friends]: a statement a woman makes to a man to indicate that she is not
sexually or romantically interested in him. One can hear an LJBF speech or get
LMR—noun [last minute resistance]: an occurrence,
often after kissing, in which a woman who desires a man prevents him, through
words or actions, from progressing toward more intimate sexual contact, such as
removing her bra, putting his hand down her pants, or penetration.
LSE—adjective [low self-esteem]: used to describe a
woman who is insecure and tends to engage in self-effacing or self-destructive
behavior. Origin: MrSex4uNYC.
LTR—noun [long-term relationship]: a girlfriend.
MANAGE EXPECTATIONS—verb: to let a woman know before
sleeping with her roughly how committed a relationship one intends to have with
her, so that she does not expect too much or too little.
MLTR—noun [multiple long-term relationship]: a woman
who is part of a harem, or one of many girlfriends a pickup artist is currently
seeing and sleeping with. Ideally, the pickup artist is honest with his MLTRs
and informs them chat he is seeing other women. Origin: Svengali.
MM—noun [Mystery Method]: a school of seduction
started by Mystery that focuses on indirect group approaches. Origin: Mystery.
MODEL—verb: to observe and imitate the behavior of
another person, typically someone who possesses a trait or skill one wishes to
acquire. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
MPB—noun [male pattern blindness]: some men's
inability to recognize that a woman is attracted to and interested in him until
after she leaves and it's too late to act on it. Origin: Vincent.
MPUA—noun [master pickup artist]: a player who excels
at the game, and whose skills put him in the top 1 percent of the seduction
MYSTERY'S LOUNGE—noun: a private, members-only online forum
where many of the leading pickup artists in the community exchange techniques,
photographs, and field reports. Origin: Mystery.
1. noun: an ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult
delivered to a beautiful woman a pickup artist has just met, with the intent
of actively demonstrating to her (or her friends) a lack of interest in her.
For example:"Those are nice nails; are they real?"
2. verb: to actively demonstrate a lack of interest in a beautiful
woman by making an ambiguous statement, insulting her in a way that appears
accidental, or offering constructive criticism. Also: neg bit.
NEWBIE MISSION—noun: an exercise designed to help shy men
overcome their fear of approaching women. The newbie mission involves spending a
day in a public area, such as a mall, and saying "hi" to every woman who passes
by. Origin: Svengali
NLP—noun [neuro-linguistic programming]: a school of
hypnosis developed in the 1970s based largely on the techniques of Milton
Erickson. Unlike traditional hypnosis, in which subjects are put to sleep, it is
a form of waking hypnosis in which subtle conversational cues and physical
gestures are used to influence a person on a subconscious level. Origin: Richard
Bandler and John Grinder.
NONVERSATION—noun: a conversation in which one person
isn't paying attention to what the other person is saying, generally due to lack
of interest or being distracted. Origin: Style.
1. verb: to obtain a correct phone number from a woman. Note that
giving a woman one's own number does not constitute a number close.
2. noun: a woman's phone number, obtained during the course of a
pickup. Also: #close. Origin; Mystery.
OBSTACLE—noun: the person or people in a group whom
the pickup artist does not desire, but whom he must win over in order to run
game on the woman in the group he does desire. Origin: Mystery.
1. noun: an obsession with a girl whom one is not dating; pickup
artists believe that such an extreme fixation on one woman significantly
lowers a man's chances of dating or sleeping with her.
2. noun: a girl with whom one is obsessed. Origin: John C. Ryan.
OPENER—noun: a statement, question, or story used
to initiate a conversation with a stranger or group of strangers. Openers may be
environmental (spontaneous) or canned (pre-scripted); and direct (showing
romantic or sexual interest in a woman) or indirect (not showing interest).
OUTALPHA—verb: see AMOG.
PAIMAI—noun [pre-approach invitation, male approach
invitation]: a nonverbal action or series of actions meant to induce a woman or
group to notice a man and passively express interest in meeting him before he
actually approaches her. Origin: Formhandle.
PATTERN—noun: a speech, usually scripted, that is
based on a series of neurolinguistic programming phrases designed to attract or
arouse a woman.
PATTERN INTERRUPT—noun: an unexpected word, phrase, or
action performed suddenly in order to halt a person's auto-pilot response before
it's completed, such as cutting off a woman who's talking about her ex-boyfriend
and quickly changing the subject. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
1. verb: to approach and talk to one group of people in order to
meet a woman or group adjacent to it.
2. noun: a person one approaches in order to meet a nearby woman
or group. A pawn can be an acquaintance or stranger. Origin: Mystery.
PEACOCK—verb: to dress in loud clothing or with
flashy accoutrements in order to get attention from women. Peacocking items
include bright shiny shirts, light-up jewelry, feather boas, colorful cowboy
hats, or anything else that makes one stand out in a crowd. Origin: Mystery.
PHASE-SHIFT—verb: to make the transition, during a
one-on-one conversation with a woman, from ordinary calk to slower,
sexually-charged talk, touch, or body language; intended to precede an attempt
to kiss. Origin: Mystery.
PIVOT—noun: a woman, usually a friend, used in social
situations to help one meet other women. A pivot serves many functions: she
provides social proof, she can create jealousy in the target, she can make it
easier to open difficult sets, and she can brag about the pickup artist to his
target. Also: wingwoman.
PROXIMITY ALERT SYSTEM—noun: the state of being aware
of a woman or group of women who are standing awkwardly nearby in hopes of being
talked to. Generally, the woman will have her back to the pickup artist, so as
to make her presence there seem accidental. Origin: Mystery.
PUSH-PULL—noun: a technique used to create or increase
attraction, in which a man gives a woman indications that he is not interested
in her followed by indications that he is. This sequence can take place in a few
seconds—such as taking a woman's hands and then dropping them as if you don't
trust her yet—or over time, such as being very nice during one phone
conversation but then very distant and abrupt during the next one. Origin:
RAFC—noun [reformed average frustrated chump]: a
seduction student who has not yet become a pickup artist or mastered the skills
offered by the community.
REFRAME—verb: to alter the context through which
someone sees an idea or situation; to change the meaning a person attributes to
an idea or situation. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
ROUTINE—noun: a story, scripted conversation,
demonstration of skill, or other piece of prepared material intended to
initiate, maintain, or advance an interaction with a woman or her group.
Examples include the best-friends test, the evolution phase-shift, and the ESP
RSD—noun [Real Social Dynamics]: a company
specializing in pickup seminars, workshops, and products started by Papa and
Tyler Durden. Origin: Papa.
1. verb: to pick up women, or to go out to try and meet women.
2. noun: a woman who has been picked up. Origin: Aardvark.
SARGER—noun: a person who picks up women; a member
of the pickup community.
SECOND MEETING—noun: a first date. Also: day two.
SET—noun: a group of people in a social setting. A
two-set is a group of two people; a three-set is three people, and so on. Sets
may contain women, men, or both (in which case they may be referred to as mixed
sets). Origin: Mystery.
SHB—noun [super hot babe]: an extremely attractive
SHIT TEST—noun: a question, demand, or seemingly
hostile comment made by a woman intended to gauge whether a man is strong enough
to be a worthy boyfriend or sexual partner. If he takes the question, demand, or
comment at face value, he fails and generally loses the opportunity to move
forward in his interaction with her. Examples include telling him he is too
young or old for her, or asking him to perform an unnecessary favor.
SHOTGUN NEG—noun: a type of neg used in a group
situation with a woman, intended to amuse the group at her expense. Origin:
SNIPER NEG—noun: A type of neg used to
embarrass a woman while talking one-on-one with her. Origin: Mystery.
SOI—noun [statement of intent or show of interest]: a
direct comment intended to let a woman know that one is attracted to or
impressed with her. Origin: Rio.
SS—noun [Speed Seduction]: an NLP-based school of
pickup founded by Ross Jeffries in the 1980s. Origin: Ross Jeffries.
STALE—verb or adjective: an occurrence in
which the phone number of a woman is no longer an effective means of making
plans with her, usually because too much time has lapsed between interactions
and the woman has lost interest; may also be used to describe a woman who has
lost interest in a pickup artist.
STYLEMOG—noun or verb: a subtle set of
tactics, mannerisms, backhanded compliments, and responses used to keep a pickup
artist dominant in a group. Origin: Tyler Durden.
SUBCOMMUNICATION—noun: an impression, message, or
effect created by a person's mannerisms, dress, or general presence; an
indirect, nonverbal form of communication generally perceived better by women
than men. Origin: Tyler Durden.
SUPPLICATE—verb: to put oneself in a servile or
inferior position in order to please a woman, such as buying her a drink or
changing an opinion in order to agree with her.
SYNESTHESIA—noun: literally, an overlapping of the
senses, such as smelling a color; in seduction, a name given to a type of waking
hypnosis in which a woman is put into a heightened state of awareness and told
to imagine pleasurable images and sensations growing in intensity. The goal is
to arouse her through suggestive, metaphorical talk, sensations, and imagery.
TAKEAWAY—noun: a pickup technique in which a man who
has approached a woman and is getting along with her leaves—for as little as a
few seconds or as long as a couple hours—in order to demonstrate a lack of
neediness and increase her attraction to him. Also: false takeaway.
TARGET—noun: the woman in a group whom the pickup
artist desires and is running game on. Origin: Mystery.
THREE-SECOND RULE—noun: a guideline stating that a
woman should be approached within three seconds of first seeing her. It is
intended to prevent the man from thinking about the approach too much and
getting nervous, as well as to keep him from creeping the woman out by staring
at her for too long. Origin: Mystery.
TIME BRIDGE—noun: This term is used in Mystery's
Venusian Arts Handbook, and refers to getting a phone number for a date. David
DeAngelo (DYD) recommends immediately getting an email address/phone number, and
set up a date later. Mystery says that phone numbers recieved this way are
wood, and the girl is likely to flake. Instead, he recommends
going for an instant date, then get her contact information after she
is emotionally invested in you.
TIME CONSTRAINT—noun: to tell a woman or a group of
people that it is necessary to leave them soon. The purpose of a time constraint
is to lessen a woman's anxiety that a man she has just met will hang around her
all night, or that she is expected to have sex with a man upon entering his
house. Also: false time constraint. Origin: Style.
TIME DISTORTION—noun: originally a hypnosis term
referring to a subject's loss of awareness of how much time is passing, it also
refers to the pickup technique of making a woman feel she has known a pickup
artist longer than she really has. Examples of time distortion include taking a
woman to several different places over the course of a night or having a woman
imagine future events and adventures together. Also: future pacing or
future events projection.
TRANCE WORDS—noun: the words a person emphasizes or
repeats when speaking, indicating that they have a special meaning to the
speaker. Once a pickup artist knows a woman's trance words, he may use those
words in conversation to make her feel a sense of understanding and connection
with him. Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder.
TRIANGULAR GAZING—verb: a technique used directly
before attempting to kiss a woman, in which, while making eye contact, a man
takes several short, suggestive glances at her lips.
WBAFC—noun [way-below average frustrated chump]: a man
who is extremely unsuccessful with women, usually due to awkwardness,
nervousness, and lack of experience.
WING—noun: a male friend, generally with some pickup
knowledge, who assists one in meeting, attracting, or taking home a woman. A
wing can help by keeping a woman's friends occupied while the pickup artist
talks to her, or by talking to the woman directly about the pickup artist's
positive traits. Also: Wingman.
WINGWOMAN—noun: see pivot.
WOOD—noun: useless; a waste of paper; generally used
to describe a woman's phone number when she gives it to a pickup artist freely
but is unlikely to call him back when he phones.
YES-LADDER—noun: a persuasion technique in which a
person is asked a series of basic questions designed to elicit positive answers,
increasing the likelihood that the person will also respond in the affirmative
to a final, open-ended question. For example: "Are you spontaneous? Are you
adventurous? Would you like to play a game called the cube?"
Glossary formatting from the book The Game by Neil Strauss (Style)